Myself, Bristol Palin And The Abstinence Message

lately I’ve been accused of being a hypocrite by the pro-abort trolls that can’t seem to keep their noses out of other people’s business.

I’m a hypocrite because I advocate for abstinence even though I myself have had a child out of wedlock.

My answer to that is: So what?

Why can’t I be an advocate for abstinence? Should I stand by and let others make the same mistake I did?  I don’t think so. People make mistakes. No one is perfect. I’ve never said that I was and I never will. I made a mistake. I learned from it and with that experience its my duty to teach others.

Bristol Palin feels the same way. She became an abstinence ambassador for the Candies Foundation after giving birth to her son Tripp.She’s using her experience as an example of what not to do. I think its admirable of her to use her experience to help prevent other teens from getting pregnant. There is a great interview with her  on the Christianity Today web site.

I understand that abstinence is not for everyone. I don’t expect every teen out there to practice it. I will however continue to advocate for it, as it is the ONLY 100% effective way to prevent pregnancy. That is what I intend to teach my daughters as well. If one slips up and ends up pregnant, they will have my full support. I can’t judge them because I’ve been there myself.

If some hear the message and decide its the way they want to go, good  for them. If they don’t, I can’t force them to, but at least I have put that information out there for them instead of sitting idly by while teens are getting pregnant and turning to abortion as a solution. Two wrongs don’t make it right.

God bless.

 

 

 

 

Raising Our Daughters To Be Ladies And Sons To Be Gentlemen.

Recently I came across this graphic on facebook:

LadiesThat quote gives us something to think about doesn’t it? If we want our daughters to be ladies and our sons to be gentlemen,  we need to teach them how instead of hoping they figure it out on their own.

We already teach them (At least I hope everyone does) to use good manners; saying “please” “thank you” and “excuse me” to name a few. I also teach my daughter’s to address their elders in a formal manner, using “Mr.” and “Mrs.” instead of first names. My mother always addressed our neighbors in this manner. I do it today.  To me, it shows the person respect.  My mother was a lady, and she raised me to be one as well. I remember she would dress for the grocery store they way some women would dress for the office. I found it a bit humorous that she’d be in her dress clothes, makeup on and hair up in a french twist, then climb into her little red Ford Ranger (complete with lift-kit) and head off to the store. She never walked out the door unless she looked like a presentable lady, and never let me out the door until I was as well.

Being a Lady or a Gentleman goes beyond manners. It also means teaching our kids to respect themselves as well. Girls need to learn that she doesn’t have to swear, drink alcohol, take drugs or have sex in order to be cool. Boys need to learn the same thing.

For girls, being a lady doesn’t mean that she is weak or repressed. It takes much more willpower and self-control to be a lady. I managed it until I was 26. I(I stumbled in the not-having-sex department, but I am now married to the man I stumbled with.)  NOT giving in to peer-pressure to drink or have sex is a lot harder than giving in. By not giving in, she will have more self respect for herself instead of caving in and having regrets. If your daughter possesses these qualities, she will go farther in this world, and if she chooses to marry, will attract a man that will treat her with respect.

Our sons should be taught to respect women. Don’t cuss in front of them. Don’t pressure a girl to do something that she doesn’t want to do, and stay away from those that are all too willing to do things they’ll regret later. Hold a door for others, be it a woman or a man. Use “Sir” and “Ma’am”. when speaking to a girl’s parents. Simple little things like that go a long way.

Just think, if all it took was our kids having a little self respect and respect for others, Drug and alcohol abuse wouldn’t be a huge problem.  The teen pregnancy rate would drop. Imagine what that would do to the abortion rates.

Until next time, God Bless.

P. S. Well, isn’t this interesting? When using the proof-reading feature, it marked the word “ladies” as biased language but not the word “gentlemen”. Go figure.

 

Ultrasounds Before Abortion: Pro-Life Loves It, Pro-Choice Calls It “Rape”.

Lately I read a debate between pro-life and pro-choice regarding the issue of ultrasounds before an abortion. The pro-life side thought it was a great idea, but the the choicers thought it was a horrible idea.

Why? If you are for “choice” as you claim, why not have a woman view an ultrasound before consenting to an abortion procedure? I’m sorry, but if you are against anything that would cause a woman to choose life instead of abortion, then you are the truly “anti-choice” person, not I.

I find it funny that choicers call a trans-vaginal ultrasound “rape” when it comes to a woman considering abortion, but its fine for a woman that chooses life for her child. I’ve been told that its an invasive procedure. Really? A trans-vaginal ultrasound probe looks like the one on the bottom in the picture:

Only 2-3 inches of the probe is inserted into the vagina.

I don’t about a choicers experiences when it comes to sex, but this is looks less invasive that intercourse. Come on ladies, we’ve all seen penises bigger than this!

So if a trans-vaginal ultrasound is rape, then so is a pap smear, considering that the speculum used in the procedure is much bigger.

 
I’ve had 2 trans-vaginal ultrasounds, and I didn’t feel it was invasive at all. There was no discomfort or pain, and unless the doctor moved the probe, I didn’t even know it was there. I was told by someone that if I didn’t know it was there, then my vaginal muscles must be like cottage cheese. Not at all. I was told by my doctor that if I relaxed I wouldn’t have any issues. I suppose if I was all worked up over it and kept tensing my muscles I sure as heck would know it was there.

So if you are pro-choice but against ultrasound before abortion, you might as well change your label to Anti-choice, because if you are against anything that would give a woman a reason to choose life, then you are indeed Anti-choice.

 
Until next time, God Bless.

What’s Wrong With Being A Stay-At-Home Mother?

Technology is grand, When it works. I have had more trouble with modems and wireless routers lately to last me a lifetime!
So, why do Pro-Aborts look down on us stay-at-home mothers? Is is jealousy? Sometimes I think so. I’ve had a lot of working moms tell me they wish they could stay home with their young children. Others tell me they’d go insane being home all day.
I have to say that there are times when I am starved for adult conversation. I can’t wait for my husband to get home so I can talk about stuff other than trying to interpret my Autistic twins’ garbled English. Since starting school full time they are getting much better, but its still a challenge at times.
I wonder if my mother felt the same way when we were young. My older brother and I only have a year and 4 months between us, and my younger brother came along 7 years after me. I remember “interpreting” for my little brother because my mom couldn’t understand him!

I’m proud to be a stay-at-home mom. I was raised by one and I think that is why I have a good handle on life. She was always there for us, and that’s what I want for my kids.

I did work some of the time. I had a job for 5 years after my daughter was in school full time and I found a job that worked along with her school schedule. She only spent an hour in the after-school program. After my twins were born I was back at home again.

My mom was always there. She’s my hero. She took care of us when we were sick. Now I do that for my kids. She ironed our clothes, packed our lunches, cooked great dinners. I do the same for my husband and children.

I’ve been told by pro-aborts that I “leech off ” my poor overworked husband. My mom didn’t leech off my dad and I sure as hell don’t leech of my husband. My marriage and my parent’s marriage are very similar. My dad worked 12 hour days 5 days a week and put in another 6 on Saturday. My husband works and 8 hour shift at one job and then 3-4 days a week will put in another 4 at his second job. Just like my dad, when he gets home nothing is expected from him but to rest. My mother waited on my dad hand and foot, and I do the same for my husband. Its my way of showing him I appreciate all the hard work he puts in to keep the roof over our head and food on the table. Sure there are times when things need fixing around the house, but unless the basement is flooding or the furnace breaks down, they can keep until he feels up to working on it.

I consider being a stay-at-home mom an honor, and if the pro-aborts don’t like it, they know where they can shove it. I’m not here to please them.

 

Update: Wow, check out this comment:

Sorry, but when is the last time you ironed anything? As far as waiting on my brother hand and foot, that is a bit of an exaggeration, isn’t it? Don’t forget, I have been there and seen how you are. You let him worry about most everything, and Susie has had more to do with taking care of the twins than you have done. This blog is nothing more than you living in a fantasy. Don’t forget, I have talked to my brother a time or two, and I know how he feels about some things. Have a blessed day.”

Well dear sister-in-law, I had no idea that you were living in my home and saw what goes on each day. As I recall, the last time you ever set foot in my house was over a year ago. Talk to you brother? Hardly. Last time you called was to scream obscenities into my answering machine accusing me of something I did not do.  You really shouldn’t pass judgement on things you know NOTHING about. Now YOU have a blessed day!

The Power Of A Loving Family

 

A few weeks ago my Uncle passed away. As we all gathered at the wake after the service, one of my cousins noted that it seems the family only gets together nowadays for funerals. It was never like that in the past. Sunday dinners at my grandmother’s house were a monthly event. Sometimes we would spread out in her spacious backyard, but a lot of the dinners were spent packed elbow to elbow like sardines around a huge table set up in her basement. There was never less that 20 of us there at a time, Grandma had 7 children, 4 who married and had families of their own. 12 grandchildren, and there were also a few cousins from Poland that happened to be around as well. This was just my mother’s side of  the family. Dad only had one sister, but she had 4 children and dad had 3. 6 of us married and had our own kids. 10 in all.

In this large brood 3 of us girls had unplanned pregnancies. Myself and 2 of my dad’s nieces. When each pregnancy was announced, no one felt anything towards the mom but pure joy. No one thought any less of us. No one told us we should have been ashamed. No one told us we should abort our children. I don’t even think the thought crossed anyone’s mind.

Not only were we accepted as mothers-to-be, but the fathers were accepted into the family as well. (my dad had a bit of a hard time with this, but he came around.) Because of this acceptance, each one of us married the father of our child.

I think that if other women had a family like mine, where encouragement is given rather than judgement and help is given rather than rejection, more women would choose life over abortion. Because of this family, I never thought of my daughter as a burden. I continued to work and my mother helped by taking care of my daughter while I was away. When mom wasn’t available, there were Aunts willing and able to take over. Even my brothers pitched in!

My daughter is 15 now with 2 younger sisters. I’m still married to her dad. The family doesn’t get together as often as we used to, but the love and support are still there. My mother passed away when my oldest was almost 2. Her 3 sisters took over as “grandmas”. Sometimes I wish my daughters could have known their grandmother, but they get all the love and attention that my mother would have shown them from my Aunts.

When one of us is in need, a helping hand is there for us.

When one of us is hurting, a kind word and hug are there for us.

When things seem hopeless, they are there for us.

That’s the power of a loving family.

Until next time, God Bless.

 

Some Of The Stupidest Pro-Choice Signs and Statements.

Busy day! I got up and out early today to go to some estate sales. I was looking for a set of dishes, since all but a few of mine have been broken. I scored a great 40 piece set of Mikasa at the 5th sale I found. So bringing home my prize resulted in having to find room in the cabinets for all 40 pieces. I ended up re-organizing the entire kitchen!

You’re thrilled, I can tell. So on to the good stuff!

I promised you some of the stupidest pro-choice signs and statements  I’ve ever seen, so here they are in no particular order:

Keep your laws off my body? Does that mean you want ALL laws regarding your body taken away? Like the ones that protect you from harm?

So now according to pro-aborts, not having sex is the same as aborting a living human? How so? All of a sudden nature has changed so sperm and eggs can now develop into a human being all on their own?

This is a joke right? Sorry to burst your bubble, but in 100% of the cases, abortion ENDS lives.

This has got to be the most ridiculous statement I have ever seen.  Fix sandwiches and have men tell us what to do? I think not. Apparently pro-aborts  aren’t that smart, since they cannot comprehend that the baby is NOT their body.

Yep, keep the government out of your womb except when demanding free birth control and taxpayer funded abortions!

Oh this is wrong on so many points. Deanna Candler of Live Action says it best here.

Okay, riddle me this: If pro-aborts justify abortion on the grounds that the fetus has no conscious thought, how can a he/she make that conscious decision? I also thought that pro-aborts insist that he/she is a fetus until birth, yet this confused woman uses the word ‘baby’. Contradictions contradictions…

Anti-Sex? Really? I’m against abortion and I don’t use birth control, but my husband and I have a very active sex life.

Anti-choice? Wrong again Choicers! You have 5 choices: Abstinence, birth control, sex education, adoption, or responsibility.

I’ll be you two that I’m not!

What?? What drug is Ms. Taft on? If they valued life they would not end it. They would take the matter seriously, bring the child into the world and give it up for adoption. Just because YOU can’t raise a child doesn’t mean others can’t either.

What part of the word BIRTHday do they not get?

She’s a statue, she doesn’t have a uterus.

And the dumbest of all:

Last I checked, Abortion DOESN’T SAVE the baby, it KILLS the baby. Duh.

I can go on and on all day and all night with this stuff. I see this crap every day and it makes me wonder how these folks get around without bumping into walls. God gave everyone brains, yet some choose not to use them.

So there you have it folks, pro-choice logic at its finest.
Stay tuned for the next post: Abortion Safer Than Childbirth?

Until then, God Bless!